Bringing vibrators into the bedroom is now the norm, but a lot of women don’t know how to use them. Start with teasing the body and stimulating other erogenous zones first, like the nipples, before getting to the clitoris and massaging the G-spot.
It’s okay to have a squirting orgasm – in fact, many women would never have an orgasm without a vibrator. And, remember, masturbation is healthy!
Start with the clitoris
If you’re new to using a vibrator, it might be helpful to begin with stimulating the clitoris and clitoral hood. You may need to lubricate first to reduce friction, but don’t be afraid to experiment with pressure and movement. You can try rubbing in circular motions, upping or decreasing the speed, and even changing the direction of your strokes. It’s important to remember that everyone’s clitorises are different and that what feels good for one person may not feel the same for another.
If your clitoris is sensitive, start with light pressure and build up to more intense sensations as you go. It may also help to massage the area with your fingers and explore stroking diagonally or up and down to see what feels best.
It can take a bit of time to find orgasm with your vibrator, so make sure to set the mood by dimming the lights, turning off any distractions, and relaxing into the sensual experience. It’s also a good idea to use a lubricant that is safe for your type of vibrator.
Move to the nipples
Nipple play is an underrated form of masturbation, but it’s a great way to have multiple orgasms. The nipples are highly sensitive, and they can get stimulated with rubbing, licking, pinching, sucking, biting, or blowing. You can also use a lubricant or ice cubes to increase the sensations. And don’t be afraid to try nipple toys, such as nipple clamps or magnetic orbs.
It’s important to start slow and move cautiously when playing with the nipples, especially if you’re with a partner. You want to gauge your partner’s reactions and “calibrate” the level of stimulation to their unique body and feedback style. Remember, it’s always best to have a safe word, in case either of you gets uncomfortable. And don’t forget to use nipple play in conjunction with other erogenous zones. That’s how you’ll create an ultimate pleasure experience! This article was originally published on Hims.
Stroke the penis
Many men and women don’t realize that their penis can feel very, very pleasured with a vibrator. The head of the penis (also called the glans) is highly sensitive and responds to lubrication, pressure and vibration very well. It’s possible to stroke the head of the penis with your fingers or with your mouth, but a penis stroking toy like this Pleasure Stroke can add a new dimension to sex and pleasure.
Some people like strokers that fit around or over the head of the penis, and some are even shaped to resemble orifices or body parts for added sensory input. There are also strokers that thump, vibrate, and suck to give additional stimulation.
It’s important to communicate with your partner about the sex techniques that turn them on. Some people are hung up on the idea that orgasms must come from penetration, but only 17 to 25 per cent of women orgasm during intercourse from this method. Ultimately, whatever method gets you to climax is good sex.
Stroke the scrotum
While many guys focus on their penis and cum, there are other erogenous zones to consider when masturbating with a vibrator. For example, using a stroker on your partner’s neck, nipples, or inner thighs can also activate their climax and give them an entirely different pleasure experience.
The scrotum is another underrated area to play with while masturbating with a vibrator. The pouch of skin and muscle encasing his testicles can be teased, tugged, and even gently nibbled (as long as the testicles themselves don’t get squeezed). And of course, there are the balls themselves.
A lot of men enjoy the feeling of a vibrator on their balls, and it can be done in conjunction with other pleasure toys like a cock or suction cup dildo. It can also be used during oral sex with a partner or on its own, in which case lubricant may be helpful to reduce friction. The best way to discover what feels good is to experiment with stroking, edging, sucking and other sensations as well as different positions — all in the context of reaching orgasm.
Stroke the ass
Most men are so penis-focused that they forget how satisfying it can be to stroke the anus and scrotum. If you’re ready to up your stroke game, grab a pocket pussy and apply plenty of lube. Squirt a little into the love tunnel and insert your tip until it’s completely covered. Now, start stroking away. Slowly, gently, up and down. Take your partner’s cues on whether you want to go faster or slower, apply pressure more or less intensely.
Another fun way to get an orgasm is to use a vibrator to stroke your thigh muscles. This can be done either by squatting or sitting. This stimulates a whole new set of nerve endings and is a great way to increase the pleasure of oral sex.
I’ve talked to thousands of guys who didn’t realize vibrators could work on their genitals, or thought they weren’t for them because of their gender or body type. But once they give them a try, most become converts. Vibrators aren’t for specific bodies or sex toys; they’re for anyone who wants to explore the potential for pleasure.
