Sex dreams are common, and they can be pretty hot. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or single, they can be a sign of sexual arousal.
Dreams about losing your virginity or having sex with your ex can also be signs of emotional arousal. But what if you want to have more erotic dreams?
Sleep in a Certain Position
If you want to have sex dreams, it’s important that you sleep in the right position. According to a study published in the journal Dreaming, people who sleep on their stomachs with their arms stretched above their head have more sexual dreams than those who don’t. It also increases nocturnal orgasms because blood flow to the pelvic area is increased during this sleeping position.
If you have a partner in your dream, you should try to sleep with them in the same way that you would in real life. Wear a pair of comfortable pajamas or lingerie to bed and place sexy music on the stereo. These things will help set the stage for your erotic dream and make you feel arouse in preparation to sleep.
Sex dreams can be scary, especially if they involve a past relationship or a crush on someone you’re not even dating. But they’re not necessarily bad or something to be ashamed of, and it’s likely that your brain is releasing feelings of sexual arousal that you haven’t been able to experience in waking life due to a lack of opportunity.
Scientists don’t fully understand why we dream and what purpose they serve, but they do know that a person who regularly masturbates is more likely to have sex dreams. However, it’s important to remember that this type of dream can be a warning sign of an unhealthy attachment.
Visualize Your Partner
When you sleep, visualize your ideal partner. This is a great way to get the brain in the right mood for sex dreams. Try to remember details like their scent, voice and touch. You can also think about a sexual experience that made you feel good. This may help your sex dreams to be more realistic.
You can also imagine a specific sexual scene from a movie or TV show that has you feeling horny. Listening to sensual music and even sexting can help you to prepare your mind for a sexy dream.
The person you are imagining in your sex dreams will play a key role in whether or not they will be erotic in nature. This person doesn’t have to be a romantic partner or someone you want to have sex with in real life. You could just be fantasizing about a coworker or friend. However, you are more likely to have a sexy dream about your current or former partner if you have been in a long-term relationship.
Sexy dreams about people you are in a relationship with tend to happen earlier on in a relationship and when the person is not readily available. These types of dreams are often about things that were forbidden in a past relationship or are related to feelings of loss.
Talk to a Therapist
If you’re not sure how to decipher the sexual dreams in your head, a therapist can help. “Sex dreams can be a reflection of your subconscious desires,” says therapist and dream coach Brito. “The key is to look at where the energy in the dream leads, especially how it ends.”
She suggests asking yourself some questions: “Did you feel physically turned on in the dream? Are you sexually attracted to the person in your dream?” The answers may shed some light on what’s really going on in your head.
It’s also normal to have sex dreams that involve people you know, even your best friends, as Elite Daily reports. “Sex dreams about your friends are super common and nothing to be alarmed about,” a therapist tells the site. “In fact, it could be a sign that you are harboring feelings for them that you don’t want to acknowledge in your waking life.”
Another tip is to keep a dream journal by your bed and write down the details of your dream as soon as you wake up. This will help you remember the dream and eventually figure out what it’s trying to say. The good news is that you don’t need to spend a fortune on an aesthetically-pleasing dream journal—just any notebook will do. You can even just write a few sentences to get started.
Practice Lucid Dreaming
Some people who practice lucid dreaming report that they have steamy, erotic dreams. However, there’s not much evidence that the techniques commonly recommended for lucid dreaming actually work.
One thing that may help is to focus on something erotic that you’re interested in during the day, such as art, music or film. This can stimulate your imagination and get you in the mood to have a great erotic dream.
You can also use a lucid dreaming meditation to enhance your chances of having a good sex dream. The key is to be confident and expect the person in your dream to fulfill your sexual fantasies. It’s a little like the law of attraction in that what you expect to happen is likely to come true, even in a dream.
Another technique is to look around your dream and notice the different people who are present. Then, start looking for someone who makes you feel the most sexy. If you’re not having any luck finding the perfect person, try looking for someone who you admire or respect. This can make the experience more enjoyable and even cause you to orgasm during the dream.
It’s also important to be relaxed when you’re sleeping, so try using a lucid dreaming pill or listen to these high-quality binaural beats. The more you practice, the better you’ll be at having sexy and erotic dreams.
